Sleep cycles can be a dilemma for parents. Wondering how much sleep your child needs and how to monitor them can be challenging. But we’re here with a short guide to make things easier.

How much sleep is enough for your toddler?

Many children of this age need 10-12 hours of sleep at night. Some observe their siestas, but only a few children still need this by preschool age.

Getting ready for sleep

Talk to your child to prepare them for bed. Tell them beforehand that bedtime is coming, e.g., ‘Just one more game, and then it’s time for bed’, and mean what you say. This can prevent them from pressuring you to stay up.

Work out a pattern that is special to you and your child. This is not the time for tickles, wrestles, quarrels, TV, or other excitement.

Stressful events can sometimes mean children need extra time and quiet attention, e.g., starting school, being unwell, and family disruptions. Reassuring words, a more prolonged cuddle or relaxing music can help.

Older children may talk to you about what’s bothering them. For younger kids, try to soothe them. Leave their favourite toy or a night light if they like it. 

Night waking

Night waking is common in these years, and there’s no right way to solve it. Some children can resettle themselves, while others need more comfort.

The inner confidence to feel secure when parents are not there is still developing in 3 to 4-year-olds.

If night waking is caused by separation anxiety, it usually happens less after 4 years of age.

Children may find sleeping difficult due to disturbances such as nightmares, night terrors, or other problems such as snoring. Talk to your doctor if these are happening.

Settling ideas

If your child gets out of bed, gently lead them back and resettle them. It is not the time to play or do anything exciting. 

Quietly reassure them that everything is okay. Say something like ‘Sleep time now; I love you’, then leave the room. You may need to return and repeat this.

You could put another bed for yourself in your child’s room. You can be comfortable and rest while they need you close.

Some parents allow their children to enter their beds early in the morning. If this happens, one parent may be willing to sleep in another room or the child’s bed so everyone gets better sleep. 

Keep a small mattress and a sleeping bag or blanket next to your bed for your child to use if they wake up and come to your room.

TIP: Ask your children what would help them sleep. Some children can tell you, but others may not be able to.

Issues at bedtime

Some reasons a child may not want to go to bed are:

Having to go off on their own and leave people or exciting things happening in the house.

They might be frightened of being left alone. Whatever time you put them to bed, they will still be unhappy.

TIP: Children's sleep can be challenging at times. If you feel upset or angry, ensure your child is safe, then take a short break. 

Remember to never shake a toddler rigorously. It may lead to brain damage and other complications. It will take a while for your toddler to sleep alone. Don't be aggressive with them. Take it a day at a time.