Omugwo: Managing Baby Blues And Depression

The postpartum period refers to the first six weeks after childbirth. This is a joyous time and a period of adjustment and healing for mothers. During these weeks, you’ll bond with your baby and have a post-delivery checkup with your doctor.


You’ll receive glowing chants from family members and friends surrounding you. It’s also when your mother or mother-in-law takes care of you. They’ll also prepare local delicacies to help heal your wounds. This whole period is also known as omugwo


Adjusting to motherhood

Adjusting to everyday life after the birth of a baby has its challenges, especially if you’re a new mother. Although caring for your baby is essential, you must also take care of yourself.


Most new mothers don’t return to work for at least the first six weeks after birth. This allows them to adapt and develop to their new normal. Since a baby has to be fed and changed often, you may experience sleepless nights. It can be frustrating and tiresome. The good news is that you’ll eventually fall into a routine. In the meantime, here’s what you can do for an easier transition:


  1. Get plenty of rest. Get as much sleep as possible to cope with tiredness and fatigue. Your baby may wake up every two to three hours for feeding. To make sure you’re getting enough rest, sleep when your baby sleeps.
  3. Seek help. Don’t hesitate to accept help from family and friends during and after postpartum. Your body needs to heal, and practical help around the home can help you get much-needed rest. Friends or family can prepare meals, run errands, or help care for other children in the home.
  5. Eat healthy meals. Maintain a healthy diet to promote healing. Increase your intake of whole grains, vegetables, fruits, and protein. You should also increase your fluid intake.

Your doctor will let you know when it’s okay to exercise. The activity should not be strenuous. Try taking a walk near your house. The change of scenery is refreshing and can increase your energy level.



Functioning as a new family unit

A new baby is an adjustment for the entire family and can change your relationship with your partner. During the postpartum period, you and your partner may also spend less time together, which can be troublesome. This is an overwhelming and stressful period, but there are ways to manage it.


Be patient. Understand changes after the birth of a baby. It takes time to adjust, but you’ll figure it out. Caring for a newborn gets easier with each day.


Also, communicate as a family. If someone feels left out, whether it’s a spouse or other children in the home, talk about the problem and be understanding.


Although babies require a lot of attention and you and your partner will spend most of the day caring for their needs, don’t feel guilty about spending alone time as a couple during the postpartum period.


Baby blues vs postpartum depression

It’s normal to have baby blues during the postpartum period. This typically happens a few days after giving birth and lasts up to two weeks. In most cases, you won’t be experiencing symptoms all the time, and your symptoms will vary.


About 70 to 80% of new mothers experience mood swings or negative feelings after giving birth. Hormonal changes cause baby blues, and symptoms may include:

Unexplained crying




Mood changes





When should you see a doctor?

Baby blues are different from postpartum depression. Postpartum depression occurs when symptoms last for more than two weeks.


Additional symptoms may include guilt, worthlessness, and loss of interest in daily activities. Some women with postpartum depression withdraw from their families, have no interest in their babies, and have thoughts of hurting their babies.


Postpartum depression requires medical treatment. Speak with your doctor if you have depression lasting longer than two weeks after giving birth or have thoughts of harming your baby. Postpartum depression can develop anytime after giving birth, even up to a year after delivery.


Coping with body changes

You’ll experience body changes after giving birth, such as weight gain and emotional changes. Weight loss doesn’t happen overnight, be patient with yourself.


Once your doctor says it’s okay to exercise, begin with moderate activity for a few minutes daily. And gradually increase the length and intensity of your workouts. Go for a walk, swim, or join an aerobics class.


Losing weight also involves eating healthy, balanced meals with fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Every new mother loses weight at a different pace, so don’t compare your weight loss efforts to others. Breastfeeding can help you return to your pre-pregnancy weight faster because it increases your daily calorie burn.


Talk to your doctor if you have questions or concerns about changes to your body during the postpartum period. Other body changes include:


Breast engorgement

Your breasts will fill with milk a couple of days after birth. This is a normal process, but the swelling (engorgement) can be uncomfortable. Engorgement improves with time. To ease discomfort, apply a warm or cold compress to your breasts. Sore nipples from breastfeeding usually disappear as your body adjusts. Use nipple cream to soothe cracking and pain.



Eat high-fibre foods to stimulate bowel activity, and drink plenty of water. Ask your doctor about safe medications. Fibre can also relieve haemorrhoids, and over-the-counter creams or sit in a sitz bath. Drinking water helps ease incontinence. If you experience incontinence, Kegel exercises can strengthen your pelvic muscles.


Pelvic floor changes

The area between your rectum and vagina is known as the perineum. It stretches and often tears during birth. Sometimes a doctor will cut this area to help your labour. You can help this area recover after delivery by doing kegel exercises. Ice the area with cold packs wrapped in towels and sitting on a pillow.



Hormonal changes can cause nighttime sweating after having a baby. Remove blankets from your bed to stay cool.


Uterine pain

A shrinking uterus after giving birth can cause cramping. The pain subsides in time. Ask your doctor about safe pain medications.


Vaginal discharge

Vaginal discharge is typically two to four weeks after giving birth. This is how your body eliminates blood and tissue from your uterus. Wear sanitary napkins until the discharge stops.


What to expect after a vaginal delivery?

Vaginal soreness

The wound might hurt for a few weeks if you had an episiotomy or vaginal tear during delivery. Extensive tears might take longer to heal. To ease discomfort while you’re recovering:

Sit on a pillow or padded ring.

Cool the wound with an ice pack, or place a chilled witch hazel pad between a sanitary napkin and the wound.

Use a squeeze bottle to pour warm water on your perineum while passing urine.

Sit in a warm bath deep enough to cover your buttocks and hips for five minutes. Use cold water if you find it more soothing.

Take an over-the-counter pain reliever.

Ask your healthcare provider about a numbing spray or cream if needed.

Talk to your healthcare provider about using a stool softener or laxative to prevent constipation. Tell your healthcare provider if you’re experiencing severe, persistent or increasing pain, which could be a sign of infection.


Vaginal discharge

After delivery, you’ll begin to shed the superficial mucous membrane that lines your uterus during pregnancy. You’ll have a vaginal discharge of this membrane and blood (lochia) for weeks.


This discharge will be red and heavy for the first few days. Then it will become increasingly watery and change from pinkish brown to yellowish white.


Contact your healthcare provider if you have heavy vaginal bleeding, especially if you experience pelvic pain, fever or uterine tenderness.



You might feel occasional contractions, sometimes called afterpains, during the first few days after delivery. These contractions often resemble menstrual cramps, which help prevent excessive bleeding by compressing the blood vessels in the uterus.

Afterpains are common during breastfeeding due to the release of oxytocin. Your healthcare provider might recommend an over-the-counter pain reliever.



Pregnancy, labour and a vaginal delivery can stretch or injure your pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder, small intestine and rectum. This might cause you to leak a few drops of urine while sneezing, laughing or coughing (stress incontinence). These problems usually improve within weeks but might persist long term.


In the meantime, wear sanitary pads and do kegel exercises to help tone your pelvic floor muscles. To do kegels, imagine sitting on a marble and tightening your pelvic muscles as if you’re lifting the marble. Try it for three seconds at a time, then relax for a count of three. Work up to doing the exercise 10 to 15 times in a row, thrice daily.


Haemorrhoids and bowel movements

If you notice pain during bowel movements and feel swelling near your anus, you might have haemorrhoid-swollen veins in the anus or lower rectum. To ease discomfort while the haemorrhoids heal:


Apply an over-the-counter haemorrhoid cream or suppository containing hydrocortisone. Use pads containing witch hazel or a numbing agent.


Soak your anal area in plain warm water for 10 to 15 minutes two to three times a day.


If you find yourself avoiding bowel movements out of fear of hurting your perineum or aggravating the pain of haemorrhoids, keep your stools soft and regular.


 Eat fibre-rich foods, including fruits, vegetables and whole grains. 


Drink plenty of water. Ask your healthcare provider about a stool softener if needed.


Hair loss and skin changes

Elevated hormone levels increase the ratio of growing hair to resting or shedding hair during pregnancy. The result is often an extra-lush head of hair, but now it’s payback time. After delivery, you’ll experience hair loss for up to five months.


Stretch marks won’t disappear after delivery, but eventually, they’ll fade from red to silver. Expect any skin that darkened during pregnancy, such as dark patches on your face (chloasma), to slowly fade.


Mood changes

Childbirth triggers a jumble of powerful emotions. Many new moms experience a period of feeling down or anxious, sometimes called the baby blues. Symptoms include mood swings, crying spells, anxiety and difficulty sleeping.


The baby blues typically subside within two weeks. In the meantime, take good care of yourself. Share your feelings, and ask your partner, loved ones or friends for help.


Weight loss

After you give birth, you might look like you’re still pregnant. This is normal. Most women lose 13 pounds (6 kilograms) during birth, including the baby's weight, placenta and amniotic fluid.


In the days after delivery, you’ll lose additional weight from excess fluids. After that, a healthy diet and regular exercise can help you gradually return to your pre-pregnancy weight.


Take it easy on yourself during this period. If you disapprove of certain practices, don't engage in them. Eat well because you're eating for two. You'll lose weight gradually at your pace, with love from Babymigo. 

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